I’m quoting married women here.
This was kinda depressing to read, I always thought my husband would be my best friend, I mean, we will do lotsa things together, and enjoy them, isn't that friendship, planning our lives together, that's even greater than friendship, and lastly having someone to talk to..
I’d still like to think that we'll be that and more.
So is it true? That "The Arabian Husband, Can Not be a "Friend". And the Arabian Wife is her Husbands Biggest Cynic"? -the second part was my own observation-
I would like to hear some of your points of view?
11 comments:
hi i just passed by here randomly and saw this blog so let me say this
Arabian men can be good friends to there women if the both sides picked the correct partner.
Like...they have to be in similar level in life\education\environment ...etc
an educated girl should marry an educated man as well, so there would be a good understanding between them since they r in the same " thinking-level"
u can't bring someone mota5alif and make him marry a...hmmm...a female doctor for example and think everything gonna be alright
but still, in the end i must sat, every rule got it's exception...specially when it comes to love matters..since love can change any person
for me, i see my future wife as a best friend, the partner of my life who can fill me and let me not needing anyone but her. :3
and thanx for the topic.
I don't think they understand that marriage is a partnership and that they have to help sometimes. Arab men (I'm not saying all)tend to expect too much out of the women their married to, they expect her to do everything completely on her own, like raise the kids, clean the house, even take care of the husband.. thats where the resentment comes in.. I think arab men should do more around the house, because i don't think they realize how hard it is until they try it> When the 2 share these responsibilities equally, they will respect each other more, and instead of resenting each other for what the other person is "not doing" or "not caring and giving" they will start appreciating what the other person is "doing" because he/she "care" enough to share the responsibility.. and thats when they become friends, it's when they understand each other and care for one another..
OH! its an unfair statement don't you think so?
i try not to generalize, and western men can turn into ur "typical" husband once faced with the routine life of marriage..
take it from me, a married arab woman, i do judge my husband (but that's what we women do) and he is my best friend ( Once he has the time, and puts in the effort)
I do understand though, that arab men are not well aware of the needs to communicate properly with the wife..
that is changing, at least here it is ..
have a nice day! oh and happy valentines x
TnT-BoY
Hey,
ur absulotly right.. but sometimes, if this person was new to your life, you wouldn't know his background, ur gonna have an idea, but not a whole understanding.. I wish i landed on someone who lived a life like mine, kuz that i know how to deal with.
the education level point is right and i support it 100% guess it's as u said a two way street.. but still, they wont be really reluctant to talk about everything! and this is what bothers me.
Thanks for ur say and for visiting my blog ;)
ge6awEe
Yes. I believe a lot of men don't understand the partnership of a marriage, but there are some who do.. and still don't believe that a wife can be a friend! And the other hand, as u said they expect a LOT from her!
But u know what? If he's not raised like that, he wont be helpful!!! So women, please stop ur attempts to CHANGE ur hubbies :P
I liked this part:
.. and thats when they become friends, it's when they understand each other and care for one another..
astidious Babe
:$ is it?
Honestly, ur reply was re-assuring, although you know them before. But yet u keep on getting these second thoughts.. But hopefully, there will be time MADE :P to become friends..
And happy valentines to you too dear!
:x
I think it's possible, Arab or non Arab; if the two had enough in common, they can be friends. Like you and your best girl friend, you sometimes think alike, you sometimes hurt each other and then realize she loves you not for any reason but because you are yourself. It can happen! =)
hala fa6om,,
guess it can happen after all,i always tend to have in my mind the worst case senario..
disagree with you on this one ...
it is all about friendship and companionship in my opinion.
imo
i belive some cant say everything and anything to each other.. this was my only take.. but what i heard i wanted to know other bloggers opinions :P talk more about it :)
All the wives are their husbands' biggest "cynics", not only Arabian ones.
As for the Arabian husbands being friends... I guess culture stands in the way of it, big time. In more ways than are immediately obvious.
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